So, I find it not only repulsive but egoistical and selfish to hear cases where the man can't and won't help in any thing domesticated in the house. Citing it as "unmanly".
Years ago, I almost dated a guy that saw no wrong in asking me to do his laundry, cooking for him and helping arrange his place (despite the fact that I hadn't even agreed to dating him), but saw everything despicable that he help me fetch water. Saying it would paint a bad picture of me being "unwifely material" (say what???). Abeg where the wife material dey sell, make I follow go buy am. He also added that people will think low of him carrying a bucket to fetch water. I was stunned. Infact, I opened my mouth wider than a tribe in Nigeria does. Lolz. Mehn, I fled oo, couldn't deal.
Biko, is it an African thing or just personal? Which law states that men can't help in domestic chores? I don't wanna mention tribe or culture. There is a tribe in the south western part of Nigeria that forbids men sweeping, or so they say. Can you believe that!! Most especially when a woman is around.
I have heard tales of some cultures prohibiting women from having a voice or say, even in matters affecting them. The case of "being seen and not heard" is applicable here. Hmmm, nawa. Some countries is Asia punishes/kills their women for being raped. Waitoo, she was raped and was also punished for that. Isn't that inhuman? I read about a young girl who was forced to choose between marrying the man that raped her and jail term/death. She had no choice but to choose the man, and do you know what, the man was making mouth that she owes him her life for saving her from death. Can you imagine that? Oh, my heart bled as I read that story. Anyways, that will be story for another day.
Over the years, men have overtaken women to be excellent cooks and chefs. Their culinary skills are superb. Calabar men are a clear example. #winks. A friend once told me that in their tribe, the husband is the lord and master, that the wife isn't allowed to own anything, as long as she is married to the man.
Religiously, some denominations are still against women teaching or preaching on the same podium as the men folk. Women and children have been abused over centuries, their freedom, dignity and self esteem trampled and stomped on. Today's woman should be different, "no one can make you inferior without your consent", words by Eleanor Roosevelt. Tribe or culture shouldn't make us a whipping board or a slave. Men should learn to treat us right, treat us like equals. Also, stop terming us the weaker sex, it's so annoying. WORD!!!